For Better Or Worse: Cleave and Leave

Feb 15, 2026  •  Pastor Jarad Houser

Did you know the word "cleave" is one of the most interesting words in the Bible? It means to bond or intertwine—like the ligaments and tendons in a joint. But a cleaver? That’s designed to separate and dissect.

We’re breaking down the three "cleavers" that often sneak in and try to separate what God joined together:


The "Me" Cleaver: Putting your own hobbies, work, or friends before your spouse.


The "Kids" Cleaver: Making the kids the center of the universe while your marriage takes a back seat.



The "Parents" Cleaver: Letting in-laws (or your own parents) undermine the bond with your spouse.


💡 Why You Should Watch

Whether you’re in a season of "Crown Molding stress" (if you know, you know!) or you're just looking to build a God-honoring marriage, this message is for you.


Highlights include:

Why "Second Place" is actually the best place to be in a marriage.


How to set healthy boundaries (yes, even if your 14-year-old is still trying to sleep in your bed).


The real reason why your spouse might remind you of your father-in-law.